Odd man in a group and the dynamics of ‘relating’

The fact of being ‘looked at’ is a risky communication rather than the real ‘wordy’ expressions. Here I am not hinting at what Sartre Stated through his world vision – others are threat to his existence and the other becomes a hell. Through his ‘keyhole’ experience, wherein he felt that the other is looking at him, strongly affected him to think that he is a worm in front of the other. The other swallows you up at the fact of being ‘looked at.’ What I want to intent is - we are relational beings and the beings in relation always adapt to the ecosystem of the situational adjustments of the beings-in-relation. Now when you are in a group, how do you relate? It is interesting to note few dynamics. The world around you weaves a lingual world (one of the weavers of the world around you) of internal perceptions, self-talks in relation to a supposed meant meaning from the communicant. 

One has no control over the perceptions of others, but one does have on one’s perceptions. All these happen in a relationship – either in ‘seeming’ or in ‘being.’

We speak of the ‘odd man out’ in games. But in a group, what are the games people play? What are the scripts they go on writing? What interpretations are given? Let’s suppose that in a group, there is a small celebration. Individuals are invited. They come, they share, and they go. Among the invited, do all have the same mind-set of celebrating a person? I doubt. Everyone adapts to a situation: “talking” is an easy way to get in (noise). Noise really hides ‘silence.’ But silence and its meaning is often sunk either in interiority (self) or in exteriority (talk). But amidst the noise and talking, a visible pointing of the silent man is invariable noticed, of course when there is nothing else to talk or if the silent man feels uncomfortable in a group. The silent man can even become the subject of the talk. Hence he is scapegoated to the extent that he is subtly rejected or indifferently treated.  Jesus came to his own and his own did not recognize him. Now what quality do you require for recognition and what necessitates rejection?