Sunday, November 13, 2011

What do you mean when you say that certain news should open your eyes?

Just consider the news that nowadays children put their old parents in the Old age home:

In malayalam it goes in the following way...
kannu thurannal poocha paalu kaanunnathu poleyaavaruthu. Kandu kazhiyumbol poocha kannadachu paalu paathram nakki vadikkum.... Be careful..... when the eyes are opened kanninte kaazcha nashtappedunna appanamma marku swantham makkalude kannukal avashyamaanennu marakkaruthu. kaaranam, nammude kannu thurakkunnathinu munbu nammude kannukalkku pakaram kanda kannukalaanu appanammamar.....

Translation in English:

If your eyes are opened, it should not be like a cat that sees the milk pot, for as soon as it sees the milk in the pot, closes its eyes and sucks the pot dry. Be careful. When the eyes are opened, the parents who gradually looses their eyesight needs the eyes of their children. Do not forget that. Because when we could hardly open our eyes, our parents were our eyes that saw.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

GOD COMES!



The following is a conversation I had with a fellow traveler in the train on my way back from Kerala after the vocation camps last June 2011. The language and the interpretation are mine.

He observed the fact of the other passengers getting down in different stops for buying something to eat. He then quipped – who is God? Whatever you say about God, finally it comes down to this – “Khaana.” It refreshes you, makes you alive and produces the vital energies enough for you to move around.

I asked, “Is it so? God is not “Khaana.”   It is said that a bowl of food is God for a beggar. But God is the One who provides.

He agreed. But he meant to say something else while saying what he said. He meant to say that our hunger for God is as strong as the desire of our hunger to be satiated, ever more than this physical hunger.
I asked him, “Can you see God in this life, since you speak of God metaphorically?” I said that no one can see God. But he had a different answer – God comes in different forms – may be in the form of a needy girl, a beggar, an old man, a child and so on. If God comes, He comes; you cannot see him for the second time. Then he narrated to me a real incident in his life:

It seems that he was on his way back home after work by his own bicycle. The bicycle was loaded with firewood behind. He was tired. And as he was passing to a narrow path besides which there was a deep open well, he lost the balance and fell in the water. The bicycle fell on him and his leg was trapped in the bicycle. He thought he would die. No one seemed to pass through that way and a help was almost an impossible thing. He then at the point of death, wished to see his dear children. Suddenly, he says, there appeared a man, black in complexion, jumped in the water and lifted him out of the water. As soon as he saved me from the water, he went on his way without even uttering a word. He wanted to ask his details and even thank him for what he has done. Just few seconds and a glance of him, he was gone.

He also stated that God is One. He was a devout Hindu. He did say that we need to search for God, and our search is never ending and live always in expectation of a theophany.
I couldn’t get into further discussion since my language was limited.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

The Man who Wants to Fly Like a Bird!




Man1: why can’t we fly like a bird in the air freely? After all we are created to reach the skies…. (Perfection)

Man2: How can it be possible for you to fly like a bird? You have a bulky fat body, the moment you take off, you would definitely kiss the ground and break your bones and deflate your balloon like body. The gravitation pull is so great… the greater the weight, the greater is the pull.

Man1: The birds do not have any presuppositions about the scientific theories like gravitational pull. They are made that way…. But suppose if I fly defying the laws of nature, what can happen?

(Do what is within the limits of your abilities to the best possible manner. If you go out of your limits, the possible dangers lurk behind your doings at all times. Think of the electric wires that you might touch on your flying and die electricuted. Since the birds are small and lighter they can go through it easily…but the case of the man is not so….)

Thursday, October 13, 2011

HOLY WOUNDS!!




O! That GREAT WOUND which made a scar on the face of the evil
Wound me and put to death all that is unworthy of you;
Wound me with your LOVE that I may in turn become a wounded healer
And let me experience the pleasant and blessed sorrow that you endured
Until I learn that joy is mixed with sorrow and Truth is mingled with Error!
Oh! How nice to be wounded by Your Holy WOUNDS!

Oh! That great WOUND that healed all human wounds!
Oh! That blood and water flowed from your pierced side
You remain open as a great stream of healing

Then healing that WHOLENESS I seek
Remind me that seeking never exhausts and fully satisfies,
Yet seeking I shall take up,
For ever hungry is my soul, never at rest
Until YOU wound your beloved with an indelible wound!
Oh! How nice to be wounded by your Holy WOUNDS!

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

A Spontaneous Outflow!!!!



O endearing God!
Lead me from unreal to the Real
From untruth to truth
From darkness to light
From seeming to BEING
From Non-knowing/ignorance to understanding
From Haziness/doubt to clarity
From attachment to detachment
From clinging to patterns of behavior to freedom to responsibility
From comfort to asceticism of daily life
From half-heartedness and indifference to commitment and action
From the little world of myself to the world of others.

Understanding Youth Animation: Reflections


‘Youth’ is categorized as a particular developmental stage in the process of growth. So the youth has to be addressed as always ‘on the way to’. Having this in mind, if we look at certain aspects of the youth animation, it is in a way is handicapped. The handicap is often caused by several forces – an attitude of ‘anything will do’ (the animators may be well qualified and they may have many things to talk on, just consider the young and old confreres having plenty of resources saved in the hard disk and when the occasion comes, take a topic and fire without considering the psyche and the spirit and the mentality of the young at target). Suppose you take a session on the topic ‘spiritual quotient’, the young people may not be aware of their own inner dimensions of growth to understand the reality of the spiritual quotient. They may not understand with the limited vocabularies they have in the built in language they acquired (I don’t mean to say the language as a whole but the knowledge of the language of the young). Language is a real barrier in getting across the message we want to convey.

Language: in the Indian scenario, where most speak their own dialects, it would be slightly defeating that we animate them in English. The vernacular vocabularies are rich in symbolism. Hence, capturing their minds with the lived context and the symbolized and signified vocabularies would evoke feelings and greater depth in understanding.

Yet another handicap is our understanding of the young as someone who needs to be kept busy all the time. Look at the way we animate them through power points, jokes, animated videos, party songs and party games (some do consider them as playing the role of breaking the monotony or creating in them interest. I do not intend to mean that these are not necessary but I am questioning its failure to get across the intended message)

What do we need to do? Start from where they are – psychologically from the stage of growth and address the issues of life and growth. Start from the SENSES, taking the cue from St. Thomas Aquinas: there is nothing in the intellect, which has not been first in the senses. Body and its related issues need to be addressed to the young. These days there are many groups conducting awareness programmes especially in the area of body awareness. Why is it all? It is then indicative that we can reach the truth. We can reach God as He reached us through Jesus Christ concretely manifesting Himself as a Fully Alive Human Being – Spiritual and Embodied. We are bodily beings and we are always in touch with our body. There is a great and an unmatched truth in the whole story of incarnation – God has skin after all. We can touch him, feel him and He is historically grounded in the person of Jesus Christ. We who partake in the mystery of Christ need to feel the death of Christ in our bodies (as St. Paul would say). But it is good to question how comfortable we are with our bodies? Do we feel the weight of our bodies? Our body is a locus of the ‘spiritual’ as well as all sorts of clinging. Just imagine a person dying, and notice his body movements, just notice his hands, the hands that did many things is unable to move, finally one has to leave. Now suppose that a dying man is holding your hand at his moment of death, his clinging hands begin to give up the hold on you….. What do you feel? The treasure is hidden in the field; can this field be our bodies? In Bhagavad Gita our body is compared to a battle field, a field where in we fight the forces of evil. Just think of the ancient asceticism the saints of ages practiced in the ancient ages. 

Why did Don Bosco insist his boys on the mortification of senses? The body discipline? Is there some truth? Definitely there is. Now coming to the point Sexuality is a key area to address to the young. Sexuality and its related issues like sexual orientation – homosexuality, lesbianism, heterosexual, etc.. need to be understood. The psycho-sexual problems like masturbation, pornography, etc. need to be addressed to the young. In India the young feel shameful to tell their problems to someone. So there is a lot of hiding taking place in this regard (I do not say all the young people, but majority need to understand their sexuality). One of my students was confused. He asked me – brother, is it all right to have sex before marriage? He thinks that it is not o.k, but influenced by the peers and their generally held consensus agree that they should have an experience of sex before marriage. What does it say? Uncertainty and confusion in the area of sex and sexuality!!

Address the young on ‘relationship, responsibility and love.’ Relationship and love need a true understanding. Lead the young to a true understanding of it through true life stories, make them aware of the manipulations (emotional) involved in it. Lead them to seek sincerity and genuinety.

Make the young productive consumers. We cannot deny the fact that we are consumers. We cannot merely remain as consumers but we need to be productive. We are in a global locality and our needs and wants are many. Being productive consumers requires responsibility.

Create an attitudinal check. Lead them to the awareness of “we need each other.” Tell them that independence is only a myth and interdependence is a reality. Though our starting point is the young person, we need to lead the young from the world of self to the other (cue from the maxim “Love your neighbor as you love yourself”). Lead them to appreciation for self and others (language, culture, faith, etc.)
These days, especially in India, the internet culture is booming. The young learn a lot by seeing and hearing and not much from reading. I would advocate a culture of reading (even in the net). Man needs visions to live by. If there is a created vision, convictions are built by reading. We form questions only when we know that there have been experiences which we do not understand and we feel the necessity of an expression. Questions emerge as one meets the demands of each day. These questions get clarified through reading.
Address the current issues of violence (not directly because they may not be interested in the details). What we need to do is to make them aware that violence erupts first from within. Give them examples from history and lead them to an understanding of ‘violence to self’ (it could be a good theme). Connected with this is the point of “Hyper-reflection”. This reflects the tendency of excessive attention to self. For the animators I recommend the reading of “The Wounded Healer” by Henry J. M. Nouwen.

In the beginning youth ministry in the catholic tradition had a thrust on giving solutions and giving a definitive answer in the person of Jesus Christ without understanding what was the real question of the young. I do not deny Jesus Christ but leading from the Question to the Answer is a process and we need to accompany the young. How?  First, address one’s own problems and seek clarity and integration for oneself. When you have something only you can give. When you have understood only you can present the young with clarity and conviction.

Emphasize on the need for guidance. They look to us. Today most young people look for answers (often a definitive and convincing one. They want mathematical certainty. If they do not get it, they look deep within. If it is not directed appropriately excessive reflection on the self can be hampering.

Do they seek God? Definitely yes; but what they need is personalization – a two-fold movement of upward down and a downward up (upward down is what we get from life as we grow up, from traditions, history, faith, etc. and the downward up is what we appropriate).

The topics for youth animation can never be exhausted if we cater to the spirit of the young….. The above ones are only my reflections….

Thursday, September 22, 2011

WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?

             I was reading a book (much sought after and widely read) written by Ronald Rolheiser, titled SEEKING SPIRITUALITY. Since the Title of my blog is "A Thirst for Meaning," What Rolheiser seems to say is that Everyone is seeking - seeking for wholeness (fullness of meaning). "seeking" is a virtue/vice that we find in the young people of today. So I thought What Rolheiser has to say about spirituality is applicable for the youth of today. He says that Everyone has a spirituality - a spirituality that can either integrate a person or disintegrate a person. Hence, even a terrorist has a spirituality (my addition). The following is a summary of a chapter on "What is Spirituality?"


To answer the question what is spirituality, Rolheiser unearths one fundamental and foundational thing ‘desire for wholeness’ which implies that spirituality is rooted in desire. Desire is stronger than satisfaction. It is the straw that stirs the drink. The desire for wholeness is expressed in all forms – literature, poetry, art, philosophy, psychology and religion. They all name and analyse this desire. For example Freud would say that this desire has such characteristic that everyone is hopelessly overcharged for life. Carl Jung says that it is not an energy that is friendly. Doris Lessing says that it is a voltage within us. Rolheiser says that there is a certain wild energy that we need to access and understand more fully what leads us to unrest and he asks the question have we understood it correctly. The new age gurus say that we are affected by the planet’s movements. He says that everyone feels a dis-ease and an unrest.  Everyone talks about it, of course wording it differently. This dis-ease is expressed as ‘a congenital all-embracing ache’, ‘an unquenchable fire,’ ‘restlessness,’ ‘longing,’ ‘disquiet,’ ‘appetitiveness,’ ‘a loneliness,’ ‘ a gnawing nostalgia,’ and a ‘wildness that cannot be tamed.’ At the outset Rolheiser says that Spirituality is what we do about this desire.
What is spirituality?: Plato lays out a broad spirituality when he says that we are on fire, our souls come from beyond, the soul through its longing and hope creates fire in us and draws us back towards itself. Augustine borrowed from platonic tradition and continues – “you have made us for yourself Lord and our hearts are restless until they rest in you.’ Having made that distinction, Rolheiser says that Spirituality is a misunderstood concept in English and the word ‘spirituality’ is a common phenomenon. At the outset he clarifies the notion of spirituality by carefully examining the misunderstood side of it.
Spirituality was understood as esoteric, exotic and not something that issues forth from the bread and butter of ordinary life. It was understood as a paranormal, mystical, pious, churchy and optional. If spirituality is understood in this way it is a tragedy, says Rolheiser. He then says that everyone has a spirituality, either life-giving one or destructive one. There is not choice precisely not to have a spirituality because we are fixed into life with certain madness and spirituality is about what we do with this madness.
Spirituality is not serenely choosing certain spiritual activities. It is far more than that. Spirituality is more about whether or not we can sleep at night than whether or not we go to church. It is about being integrated or falling apart, about being within community or being lonely, about being in harmony with mother earth or being alienated from her.
What shapes our actions is our spirituality. What shapes our actions is basically what shapes our desire. Desire makes us act and when we act what we do will either lead to a greater integration or disintegration within our personalities, minds and bodies – and to the strengthening or deterioration of our relationship to God, others and the world.

Rolheiser gives us three examples in three different personalities who had to do with their eros (desire). Spirituality is disciplining the eros (desire).
  • 1.      Mother Theresa: A religious woman, a saint who channeled her energy for the one thing – God and poor. She could will through discipline and she gained wholeness through her undivided attention. She is a saint precisely because she was able to will one thing.
  • 2.      Janis Joplin: A rock star. She could not will the one thing. She willed many things, gave over to creativity, performance, drugs, alcohol, sex, lack of rest and caused a young death.
  • 3.      Princess Diana: In her we see the existence of two tremendous energies – erotic and spiritual. With the figure of Princess Diana, Rolheiser makes a reflection that we all experience the polarities in us. But dealing with it makes us whole. Hence, every choice is a renunciation. And every selection is also a deselection. And finally he arrives at the conclusion that spirituality is about what we do with our spirits, our souls.

Then Rolheiser points out two important functions of the soul. He defines soul as not something we have, but something we are (Aristotle calls it entelechy). The two functions of the soul are:
1.      It is a principle of energy. It gives energy, a glue that holds us together and makes us one. A healthy soul does two things: a) it puts some fire in our views, keep us energized, vibrant, living with zest, and full of hope as we sense that life is beautiful and worth living, b) it keeps us glued together. It continually gives us a sense of who we are, where we come from, where we are going.
2.      It is a principle of chaos and order, implying that a healthy tension between the two is necessary for a wholesome living. And living is not a simple task because we always live with opposites – fire and water, passion and chastity, energy and integration.
There is also a complexity involved in what makes our souls healthy and unhealthy. This is the reason in all religions they use symbols to understand the mystery of a soul. The soul is omnipresent by nature. And not only we have a soul and spirituality but every living thing has it. We have to consider our existence in a wide context, in the context of the cosmic world. Teilhard di Chardin explains, ‘human person is an evolution become conscious of itself.” We are not separate from nature, we are part of it. And our spirituality is an all-inclusive one. ‘All things in nature, just like all human beings are fundamentally dis-eased and are driven outward’ is enough to explain why our spirituality is an all-inclusive one. Everyone has to have spirituality. It is true to say that if we do things which keep us energized and integrated, on fire and yet glued together, we have a healthy spirituality.

The Non-negotiable Essentials
Rolheiser says that there is no clarity in the area of spirituality because there exists a rich, confusing pluralism. We are faced with many questions, especially the question of what is essential in spirituality. Rolheiser presents to us four non-negotiable pillars of the spiritual life that constitutes the Christian spirituality. He also lets us know a brief history of the spirituality that have brought us thus far.
1.      Roman Catholicism: for a long time Roman Catholic Church and spirituality was characterized by a number of clear and distinct emphases like going to church, observing church laws, devotional practices, etc. doing things merely made you a catholic; it need not be a healthy one. Participation was a key word. Later spirituality also developed the need to practice social justice.
2.      Protestantism: Protestants, on the other hand placed emphasis on the Bible – reading it and trying actively to guide life by it. They emphasized on the need for personal justification by God. It was biblical and non-monastic.
3.      Secular society: secular spirituality viewed that everyone has spirituality. With enlightenment, the religious practices were considered important only in the private circles and no more places in public domain. Secular society has its own religious fervor – positive thinking, the cults of physical health, it is replete with more demanding forms of asceticism, it replaced the old spiritualities regarding the soul.
The situation today is drastic because we find all kinds of spiritualities- spirituality of the oppressed, nature meditation, visualization, etc. and there are millions of books written on how to master a particular spirituality. In this situation, Rolheiser suggests four main pillars of a Christian spirituality. They are closely interlinked and cannot be practiced separately.
  • 1.      Private prayer and private morality
  • 2.      Social justice
  • 3.      Mellowness of heart and spirit
  • 4.      Community as a constitutive element of true worship.
A combination of these four and their balance constitute a true spirituality.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

"Disobey and Explain" & "Obey and Complain"


The following reflection is triggered by reading a post posted on the Facebook wall of one of my friends. He stated,
I like to be a very practical man, believing in the maxim 'disobey and explain' rather than 'obey and complain'. Life's got happiness in store for everyone who's true to oneself. After all, what's life if you gonna live a life of lie..?
This  sounds as an engaging  good concept -- "Disobey and explain" rather than "obey and complain"! 'Life's got happiness in store for everyone who is true to oneself ' is still generic until it is personalised deep within the interiority.....( obedience and disobedience go parrellel to each other, obedience to your inner voice cannot be a disobedience, if at all, the consequence of it is explanation.... If one needs to obey the inner call to be true to oneself, what else is there --- is it not obedience rather than disobedience?? It is true that when one is not on the path  of obedience, the consequent result of the action is 'complaining'. This is a movement of inauthenticity - a state of being a divided self (being true to oneself and the desire of wanting to be true).Think about it.... WE always live in a world of opposites... and there needs to be a creative tension between any opposites or polarities....this is good for right human living...


Saturday, September 10, 2011

Sobbings of the Heart


Why at all your heart sobs? Why do we all struggle? We learn to express as we gradually grow. We are born into an adult world, when the infant wants to express his/her being-in-the-world in a right medium of expression. When the human language does not find an apt expression, it seeks the expression of the heart… 

It is a universal experience – A dis-ease, a seeking after authenticity and wholeness.
This seeking for wholeness is very much found in the very nature/ the whole of creation. The whole creation is groaning as St. Paul would say, as if a woman in labour pains. St. Augustine’s experience of an eternal restlessness speak of an ever seeking being-in-the- world today in an authentic mode of being. Experiencing the interior fragmentation is a part of the universal experience of every man. This experience is itself tells that we are a divided self. Just take into consideration the usual expression in English – ‘How are you?’ Is not this expression itself an expression of duality? It presupposes that a person is not whole… there are many constraints and splitting occurrences in a human being…

We have often heard of the concept of ‘original sin’ and the church still understands the concept of ‘concupiscence’ as a tendency to sin – understood as the effect of the original sin. A natural question that spontaneously probes in is – Are we made that way and therefore have to live it???
How many souls will have to go desperate when their sobs become groans!!!!
There is also a mystery that all worship and try to understand the mystery that one worships. Yet the mystery of living is not grasped in its totality… It could be a life-long task. Human experiences (Harrowing ones) often make people existentially arrested and often do not lead to a movement/ a step towards the only thing Necessary…

It can so happen that a mind can get soaked with the waters of fatalism. ‘what to do, it is written on my forehead.’ And many who watch silently the internal moans of the experiencing person, can no longer say that there is a solution to the problems but pray…. Utter human helplessness needs a divine help (this is the point that everyone needs to realize, rather than clinging to a piece of straw in the mighty ocean and struggle to get ashore.)

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Become a Priest only if you are Firmly convinced of your Vocation - Pope Directly to Seminarians

The Following is an Excerpt from Zenith:


"Under the guidance of your formators, open your hearts to the light of the Lord, to see if this path which demands courage and authenticity is for you," the Holy Father told them. "Approach the priesthood only if you are firmly convinced that God is calling you to be his ministers, and if you are completely determined to exercise it in obedience to the Church’s precepts."

He encouraged them to spend their seminary years in interior silence, unceasing prayer, constant study and "gradual insertion into the pastoral activity and structures of the Church. A Church which is community and institution, family and mission, the creation of Christ through his Holy Spirit, as well as the result of those of us who shape it through our holiness and our sins."

"We have to be saints so as not to create a contradiction between the sign that we are and the reality that we wish to signify," the Pontiff added.

The years of formation should also be a time of "deep joy," he continued, lived "humbly, clear-mindedly and with radical fidelity to the Gospel, in an affectionate relation to the time spent and the people among whom you live."

Be ready

Benedict XVI warned the future priests that their vocation will have difficulties.

"Relying on his love, do not be intimidated by surroundings that would exclude God and in which power, wealth and pleasure are frequently the main criteria ruling people’s lives," he said. "You may be shunned along with others who propose higher goals or who unmask the false gods before whom many now bow down. That will be the moment when a life deeply rooted in Christ will clearly be seen as something new and it will powerfully attract those who truly search for God, truth and justice."

The Holy Father encouraged the seminarians to look to Mary, Mother of priests.

"She will know how to mold your hearts according to the model of Christ, her divine Son, and she will teach you how to treasure forever all that he gained on Calvary for the salvation of the world."

Monday, August 15, 2011

Few relevant observations of Fr. Maria Arockiam (Regional for South Asia)


Our Salesian Regional for the south Asian region in his homily on the occasion of the independence day and the assumption of our lady made an observation on the dichotomy that exists between religion and spirituality. He started by mentioning the three questions that he put forward to the school authorities and students of the St. Anthony’s in Shillong. 

He began the flurry of questions:
Which is the most spiritual country in the world? The answer was invariably India. The second question was – Which is the most corrupt country in the world? The answer again was with a loud noise. India! India! Then came a third question which silenced all – How can we be both Spiritual and be freed from corruption. No one seemed to verbalize an answer. Fr. Arockiam says that it is not that the children do not understand our questions. They do understand our questions……

India is definitely a spiritual country. But does the practice of religion resonate with our being spiritual? There exists a dichotomy between religion and spirituality. Religion is mostly understood to be the performance of few rituals to get something from God. It is a high time to question our way of living. Young people want to see in us credulity. Young people these days go after things that are higher. They go in search of peace, silent places. Padre Pio, a saint of credibility, when he was alive attracted many youngsters…..We need to be pointers to the ultimate reality, and show by our life that there is also an internal reality of being with God while being spiritual.

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Beloved Countrymen!!





“Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high,
Into the heaven of freedom my Father, let my country awake.” Sang Rabindranath Tagore.
Independence day 64 years ago was marked by a great anxiety and fear as well as by an ardent hope as our nation tasted the sweetness of freedom from the clutches of foreign colonial rule. The infant India then was like a dream realized from Mahatma’s struggle, a nation was truly born, though our freedom was tempered by the horrors of partition.

In the wave of freedom our leaders spoke a new tongue, they breathed a new spirit into the dry bombs of a buried nation. They instilled in the minds of every Indian to think rational, and think national. Hence, a bond was made to be untorn. August 15 was repeated since then, every year adding new life, new vision for change and renewal. Today as India joyfully commemorates her 60th independence day, we ought to remember and appreciate our leaders who initiated the first Indian freedom movement. Though they adjugated to be timid, yet their efforts stands in need of appreciation. It would also be unjust to remain silent about the thousands of insignificant unnoticed martyrs ad freedom fighters, who dared to give their life for the cause of an independent nation. They were all inspired by the zeal of winning an independent India.

If we look back to the past, we see history repeating itself. We notice the themes of triumph and trauma, of survival under strain; repeat themselves over and over again. But the progress India made in every decade was accompanied by conflicts and tensions – over language in the 1950s, economic strictures in the 1960s and 1970s and communal and caste divides in the 1980s. In 1990s India reaped the benefits of liberalization. Yes dear countrymen, we have made a steady progress over the years in all spheres - political, social, economic, science, sports, agriculture, etc. From the beginning, it has made a wonderful contribution in the field of spirituality. The Buddhist concept of Ahimsa-“ahimsa paramo dharmohi, ahimsaiva param tapaha”, “one caste, one religion, one god” of Sri. Narayana Guru are few among the many rich concepts of Indian spirituality. The phrase ‘Satyam eva jayate’ itself speaks volumes for the deep-rooted spirituality in India.

64 years after independence though India is free from the monopoly of the British, yet in real sense of the term India is not free even today. With the recent bomb blasts in   different parts of India, we sense threat to our life whenever we travel. Can you be free in fear of being killed? Can a minority community live peacefully without facing any threat to the exercise of its fundamental rights in a democratic India? Atrocities against women are increasing in a country where we respect women. Can a woman take a stroll in the streets without facing threat to her modesty and security? The same age old problems appear repeatedly as old errors in new labels. India is infected with the age-old caste system, thus relegating the low caste people to the lower state than a domestic animal. It is still not uncommon to find the ethnic clashes between tribals; morality is degraded in a country where we uphold the spiritual values. Domestic violence, rape and murder are a perennial issue. Children, the future leaders of our country are abused and exploited. Where are we? Where is the respect to human dignity? Our politicians (except a few remain honest by principle and they are rare) have grown individualistic. The British devised a policy of divide ad rule, but our politicians have adopted a theory of rule and ruin.  When will we see a free India and freed Indians? Are we to wait in long expectation? How shall we move from a fear factor to freedom factor? We have to be reminded that we are no more under the clutches of the foreign imperial rule. But we are all in bondage of our own petty selfishness and narrow-mindedness. We have to break free the shackles of indifference, antipathy and negative attitudes. The cause of something going wrong outside would be sought inside. The change must begin in me, in you and in seeing us others will change. Therefore, the biggest ever change we can bring is to change our own self-perception about life and freedom.  We have to make a move from egoism to altruism, which leads us to interdependence. Let our prayer be like Mary the Patroness of India – “Lord make me a captive, then I shall be free”. Let the truth set us free.


One more thing to add finally - IS INDEPENDENCE an idea or a myth? Some would say that it is a myth because there is nothing like independence, but only interdependence.........Think about it....

                                                  Satyam eva jayate!!! Jai hind!!










Monday, August 8, 2011

Internet Life: An interesting image

This is what I got from an email.

Translation in English:
I  first met her from Orkut, love began in Facebook, marriage was in Twitter, First night was in You Tube, Divorce was in Blog, Now the child who is to be breast fed is searching for its parents in Google....
 Though it is a flight of imagination, the virtual life and virtual space is becoming a reality......
If one lives life only in the net, one is truly in the net, locked up in a virtual room, locked up without tradition, faith and the life fully understood in a lived tradtion....and latching on to the networking, one can (unfinished...)

Monday, July 18, 2011

In Reading the Messages in relationships

Our relationships always take place in the level of ‘being’. The nature of relationship is picked up by the messages that are send forth from the sender. The humans cannot but relate. It is because you cannot avoid meeting people. Wherever you are, you meet with people unless you choose to avoid them willingly or choosing to go into seclusion. Now how does one pick up the messages that are send forth from the other human being in relation? For example, a woman takes interest in a man. The advances of the woman are read by the inner capacity and emotional maturity of the man. Let’s say that there is an attraction between them. There are also two elements – visible and invisible. In the visible aspect of the relationship that exists between the two, we can say that they are male and female. What happens in the invisible? It might be a ‘reverence for the mystery’. But in the relationship, both the parties will read up messages and respond or withdraw accordingly. In Transactional analysis, we hear about life script (Basically, life script is the idea that we tend to have an unconscious life plan - like a story - that we make up as children about ourselves and our lives, which we tend to keep to and follow even when we are adults).

            What is so charming in the man that attracts the woman – the beauty of the body? The tone in which he speaks? (There is also an inner dynamics that takes place in the mind of the woman/ man. We make present the reality of relationship in the mind as it takes place in the physical realm. We might be scripting the reality and identifying the messages in correspondence with the script). But the physical world and the world that we create in the mind are two different things. Just take for example the saying – “I feel lonely in the crowd” = the physical world of me is that I am surrounded by people all over; I am one among the many present. But my internal world constitutes my lonely self. Another example might serve the purpose. On one of the Sundays, I went to visit a family. The grandmother in the family was possessed. She could not wear a rosary around her neck. Whenever someone puts on a rosary on her neck, she used to be violent and throw it away. But there are also other adults and children in the family. The adults are not afraid at this event. But the children in the family are fearful to approach her, thinking that the spirit that possesses her might get into them. Here we see the world of the adults and the world of the children.

Now the problem here is that – How to read the messages rightly every moment? How to genuinely construct realities around? In the Ricourian language, the whole world is a text. It is also very Biblical in the sense that God before creating the world said, “let it be, and it came to be.” So the saying and the making present are the functions in creating a reality. But most of the times the messages are picked wrongly because we ‘read into it’. What we need to do is to read ‘with’ and ‘within the context’. Yet another problem might come up. How to judge the genuineness of the reality constructed or the event that happens… Bernard Lonergan has the right answer: “Objectivity is the fruit of authentic subjectivity”. How do you understand the relationship between two people? See how genuine is the person. And one does not need to strike a relationship desperately. If one is genuine, genuine relationship will follow.

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Less and Less.....What if everything is LESS?????

The following was the content of an email that I got recently..... Quite intriguing, quite true.... But when we focus on the less.... we get the least..... I recently read a cover page of the book "Facing your Giants". The famous quote of this book is so enchanting...



“Focus on giants~ you stumble. Focus on God~ your giants tumble.”



So read ahead.....Lest it make you stumble....




Communication


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Wireless


Phones


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Cordless


Cooking


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Fireless


Food


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Fatless


Sweets


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Sugarless


Labour


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Effortless


Relations


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Fruitless


Attitude


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Careless


Feelings


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Heartless


Politics


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Shameless


Education


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Worthless


Mistakes


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Countless


Arguments


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Baseless


Youth


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Jobless


Ladies


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Topless


Boss


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Brainless


Jobs


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Thankless


Needs


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Endless


Situation


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Hopeless


Salaries


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Less & Less